feat(javascript): add Node.js ADBC driver manager

[kentkwu]

This PR introduces an ADBC Driver Manager for JavaScript, specifically Node.js.

It is architected as a Node-API native module that wraps the Rust ADBC Driver Manager via NAPI-RS. This was chosen to leverage existing Arrow infrastructure in Rust and the mature Rust/JS FFI ecosystem.

This means that the driver manager will run on Node (and bun, but currently untested).

• Rust layer (src/): Wraps adbc_driver_manager crate.
  • Async operations are run on the libuv thread pool via NAPI-RS AsyncTask. Results cross the boundary as Arrow IPC streams
  • IPC is used as JS does not currently have a C Data Interface implementation. In the future, we can switch the driver manager to use the C Data Interface for true zero-copy once that is implemented
• TypeScript layer (lib/)
  • JS Binding API with AdbcDatabase, AdbcConnection, AdbcStatement
• Platform binaries are built for
  • linux-x64
  • linux-arm64
  • darwin-x64
  • darwin-arm64
  • win32-x64

I've omitted final publishing to NPM in this PR. I will file a separate issue to set up publishing once this is merged.

Closes #3734

[zeroshade]

initial first pass of reviews on the workflows

[zeroshade]

Just a few questions and a couple concerns, but otherwise looks good!

[eitsupi]

The CI failure is unrelated to this change (see #4055).

[zeroshade]

Looks good!